As we are painfully aware, not everyone survives intimate partner violence. Each person left behind grieves differently and the aftermath of such a tragedy is so difficult to navigate. We are providing some links in this post to lend support to those who have lost a loved one to domestic violence homicide or suicide. There are both secular and spiritual-focused resources offered. Additionally, healing can be furthered by actively remembering the loved one. One way to do that is to submit a memorial form to the "Remember My Name" Project, which is a joint endeavor between the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) and Ms Magazine to publish an annual list of memorials. Finally, remember to give yourself time if you are grieving the loss of a domestic violence victim. While it may seem trite, at Bethesda House, we no longer consider them victims, as they are now survivors, free from fear and pain. May we remember their beauty, laughter, and courage as we celebrate their lives.
And for those of us who want to know how to help friends who are grieving the loss of a loved one due to suicide, The New York Times offers "What to Say (And Not to Say) To Someone Grieving a Suicide."
Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2020 is coming to a close, but may our memories serve those who have gone ahead to make a path for the survivors of today and tomorrow. Contact Bethesda House if we can be of help.